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Good Weed, More Sex, Less Stress

Women's Health
September 12, 2025•4 min read

It's no secret that cannabis can be a great way to relax and de-stress, but did you know that it can also help improve your sex life?

Cannabis has been shown to help address the things that are getting in the way of pleasure, connection, and intimacy. Whether you're looking for something to help with anxiety or sexual dysfunction, cannabis may be the answer you've been looking for!

Studies show that arousal does not always correlate with physical response.

For example, you may be totally aroused but you’re not as hard or wet as you would like. It's okay, it's not your fault, and you're not alone. Women, when aroused, get wet only 10% of the time. Men only get hard 40-50% of the time.

Cannabis can help with this especially if your body has morphed and you're feeling self-conscious. We often talk about cannabis as a way to relax and relieve stress, but it can also be a powerful tool for improving sexual pleasure. Cannabis has been shown to:

  • Help with discomfort during sex

  • Enhance sensation

  • Nurture intimacy (both solo or partner play)

  • Ease anxiety

  • Significantly increase connection with partner

How Cannabis helps with blood flow:

  • THC expands capillaries and blood vessels

  • Increased blood/oxygen = higher sensitivity

  • THC alleviates pain while boosting pleasure.

  • CBD is anti-inflammatory and works best when

  • combined with other cannabinoids.

Getting to know your cannabis

Now, there may be friends or acquaintances that will tell you that you'll have much better sex with an indica strain or you'll REALLY get it on with a sativa strain or hybrids are the way to go for a long night of hot and heavy sex. The only one who will be able to guide you to which is better is YOU.

Cannabis isn't a one size fits all.

Read that again. Cannabis isn't a one size fits all.

What works for your friend may not work for you.

It's good to have a journal when trying new strains or product. Experiment alone. After consumption, wait until you feel the effects. Then masturbate....yes, I said masturbate, and then write down the sensations you feel, where you were in your head space, were you giggly, relaxed, feeling erotic and sexy, etc. Then compare that with the way you feel when you don't consume.

Here is a link to my High Notes Plant Medicine Journal that has everything you need and more!

Good Weed More Sex Less Stress Types of Cannabis Consumption

So, what do you do?

I think It depends on how you want to consume/use cannabis and how quickly you want it to take affect:

  • Inhalation (5-15 minutes) Can be used before, during, or after sexy sex. If that time is with a partner, talk about the best time for you both, consumption, and set your intentions. Perhaps your partner doesn't want to partake or maybe it takes less time to feel effects for one than the other after consumption. It's very important to communicate. If you're going solo, where are you at in your head - what's best for you? Start low and go slow.

  • Edibles (90 minutes-2 hours) This can be tricky when it comes to intimacy due to the variation of onset time. If you've never used edibles before, experiment beforehand, cut it in quarters then increase after 2 hours if necessary. See how it feels.

  • Suppository (15-30 minutes rectally or 20-30 minutes vaginal) Suppositories help to make anal sex more comfortable. If you have a sensitive cervix this will help with deep penetration and make your yummy sex more comfortable.

  • Infused topicals for genitals (20-30 minutes) Apply to vulva and let it saturate and sink in. Research if any of the products have any ingredients that would be irritating to your sensitive vulva. If you apply infused topicals onto your partner's genitals, and you put your mouth on the genitals, now they are now an edible, so keep your dosing in mind.

  • Tincture (20 minutes) Can be used the same way as the Infused topicals.

  • Other topicals (immediate) Apply to sore areas or just to relax any tension. This is a great opportunity to be a thoughtful lover and give your partner a massage.

Setting the mood

First and foremost, the mood and setting are going to contribute a huge part of your play time. Relaxing the body and mind and allowing for total embodied presence to open the way for pleasure, connection, and intimacy by:

  • Dimming the lights

  • Light candles/incense/defuse essential oils

  • Take a bath with CBD infused bath bomb

  • Apply topical/massage

  • Give gratitude to the plant

  • Give gratitude to yourself and your partner

  • Listen to a playlist

  • Have plenty of water and snacks available

Helpful side notes and recap:

  • Approach cannabis with awareness and purpose.

  • Don't feel as though one or both partners need to be high.

  • 20 minutes before sex, apply infused products.

  • Check in periodically during your sexy time to confirm that there is continued consent

  • Apply lubricant! Your thirsty mucous membranes will not readily absorb silicone or oil-based lubes.

  • Give your partner feedback if you're getting in your mind, if your leg cramps, or whether you're having a great time.

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